About people-pleasers and how to stop being one

I’ve been talking to a friend about what it really means to be happy. We are quite similar and we are facing the same issues when it comes to feeling happy and fulfilled on a daily basis. We’ve realized that we’re both making the same mistake, which is caring too much – about others, about what people think of us. This leads us to putting other people first instead of ourselves. We will always be the girls who’ll try to make everyone happy, always thinking about how the other person will feel if we disagree or refuse. This drives us to compromise at almost every step in order to not upset the other person (which would make us feel guilty). However, here’s the catch: making other people happy does not make us happy. And putting them first makes us frustrated. So why do we keep doing it? Read More »

The Other Book

This story is going to make me seem really ignorant, but I promise you, I’m not. I’m just stupid 🙂 😉 Now that we clarified this I can go on knowing that you will find this funny and not outrageous.

Okay, so, last week I finished Landline, my last Rainbow Rowell book – I know, sadface :(. And after such a cutesy book I was ready for a new mystery. So after careful research I decided that the next book on my list was The Girl Before, by J.P. Delaney. I’d read the plot and it seemed interesting enough. All good and well. Only I wasn’t paying attention at all to the author’s name, so in the end, instead of acquiring The Girl Before by J.P. Delaney, I purchased The Girl Before by… Rena Olsen.Read More »